THREE STUPID WORDS THAT WOMEN SAY
Ladies, I'm sorry if the title offended any of you, but I think many of you will agree with this chapter. In fact, maybe some of you have lived this chapter (or you are living it right now).
Previously, I wrote about a story that I've seen over and over again in the lives of women. There's another tragedy that happens to women. The story goes something like this:
1. Woman and man begin courtship.
2. Woman observes "warning signs" that the man has a major character problem or characteristic which makes them incompatible.
3. Woman decides that she can "fix" his flaw or chooses to ignore it.
4. The man's character flaw remains, and so does the woman's illusion.
5. The woman ends up in a miserable relationship; possibly a miserable marriage.
This foolish way of thinking/behaving is summarized in these three words: He Can Change. Women often think they can change men. I'm sure some men are guilty of this too, but it seems that women in particular are vulnerable to his treacherous way of thinking. It may sound something like this:
"He's unfaithful, but he can change. "
"He has vices/addictions, but he can change."
"I'm not sure that he's trustworthy, but he can change."
"He's not really passionate about his faith, but he can change."
"He has a temper problem, but he can change."
"He doesn't treat his mother well, but he can change."
"He doesn't have any ambition in life, but he can change."
Do i believe that people can change? Through the transforming power of Christ -- yes! Through a dysfunctional relationship -- no! Ladies, there is a Savior; there is a life-changer. It is Jesus, not you. Look for a healthy relationship, not a person in need of rescue or major changes.
Bo Sanchez made a tragic observation in How to Find Your One True Love. He noted that some women are more selective about the shoes they buy than they are about the men they get involved with. OK naman kung mapili ka -- It's OK to be choosy! You are a queen -- go find yourself a king! Make yourself a list of qualities that your future spouse must have (example: good character, financially stable, etc). Make a list of negative qualities that he must not have (example: vices, unfaithful). Don't accept suitors who don't meet these standards! Why waste your time?
The following verse describes those who are not ready to change despite serious character problems. If you are not careful, it will describe your life as well.
Previously, I wrote about a story that I've seen over and over again in the lives of women. There's another tragedy that happens to women. The story goes something like this:
1. Woman and man begin courtship.
2. Woman observes "warning signs" that the man has a major character problem or characteristic which makes them incompatible.
3. Woman decides that she can "fix" his flaw or chooses to ignore it.
4. The man's character flaw remains, and so does the woman's illusion.
5. The woman ends up in a miserable relationship; possibly a miserable marriage.
This foolish way of thinking/behaving is summarized in these three words: He Can Change. Women often think they can change men. I'm sure some men are guilty of this too, but it seems that women in particular are vulnerable to his treacherous way of thinking. It may sound something like this:
"He's unfaithful, but he can change. "
"He has vices/addictions, but he can change."
"I'm not sure that he's trustworthy, but he can change."
"He's not really passionate about his faith, but he can change."
"He has a temper problem, but he can change."
"He doesn't treat his mother well, but he can change."
"He doesn't have any ambition in life, but he can change."
Do i believe that people can change? Through the transforming power of Christ -- yes! Through a dysfunctional relationship -- no! Ladies, there is a Savior; there is a life-changer. It is Jesus, not you. Look for a healthy relationship, not a person in need of rescue or major changes.
Bo Sanchez made a tragic observation in How to Find Your One True Love. He noted that some women are more selective about the shoes they buy than they are about the men they get involved with. OK naman kung mapili ka -- It's OK to be choosy! You are a queen -- go find yourself a king! Make yourself a list of qualities that your future spouse must have (example: good character, financially stable, etc). Make a list of negative qualities that he must not have (example: vices, unfaithful). Don't accept suitors who don't meet these standards! Why waste your time?
The following verse describes those who are not ready to change despite serious character problems. If you are not careful, it will describe your life as well.
As a dog returns to its vomit,
so a fool repeats his foolishness.
- Proverbs 26:11-
so a fool repeats his foolishness.
- Proverbs 26:11-
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