Basta Lovelife. Part 2

THE VALENTINE'S DAY MASSACRE

I want to tell you a story that is thousands of years old, yet still happnes today. It is more common than any fairy tale, yet you will not see it in many pocketbooks(romance novels). This story is both ancient and modern - it varies only slightly from the beginning of time until now.

The story goes something like this:
1. Boy meets girl and begins dating/courtship.
2. boy professes undying love and pressures girl to have sex.
3. Girl gives in to boy's pressure and has sex with him.
4. Boy loses interest and dumps girl.
5. Girl is left to deal with her broken heart as well as any physical consequences.

There are a few variations to this story. For example, sometimes the girl realizes too late that she was not even the only girlfriend -- she was just one of his many "conquests". Sometimes the couple was together for months (or years) and she thought that they would get married. Regardless, the outcome is usually the same -- a young woman with a broken heart.

I meet hundreds of students each year, and I've heard this story many times. Please don't let this happen to you. If you are being pressured to have sex, the relationship is already dead. It is over (tapos na talaga). The only question is the price you will pay before you realize it is over. Take my word on this or you too will pay a high price.

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Basta Lovelife. Part 1

These are excerpts from blogs/articles that I loved and appreciated from Kuya Kevin's book entitled "Basta Lovelife" (Making Wise Relationship Decisions), which a very dear friend of mine let me borrow for my own 'lovelife reflections'. nyehehehe..

I found this book really helpful though. I hope u guys buy one too and let it guide you through the hoops of the crazy thing called "love". Read up! ^_^

* Good character comes from making the right choices, not from getting older.
* Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love. ~ Proverbs 5:18-19
* The earlier in life one is exposed to porn, the more harmful the effects tend to be.
* A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. ~ Proverbs 14:1

*Say "no" to Mr. Bolero - End the relationship immediately if you are pressured to have sex. Sexual pressure is inexcusable!

REAL MEANING BEHIND PRESSURE LINES:

"Sige na" really means one or all of these things

1. I do not respect you enough to wait.
2. I do not care if I ruin your life by getting you pregnant.
3. My physical urges are what are most important to me.
4. You are not worth waiting for.
5. I do not care if I break your heart.
6. Your failure is not important to me.
7. I do not care if you lose your self-respect.
8. I want to brag to my friends about my conquest.
9. I am selfish.
10. I am immature.
11. I am not ready to be a father, but I don't mind giving you the responsibility of becoming a mother.
12. I am more important than you are.

~ Do any of these lines sound like true love?
You may think I'm exaggerating, but i'm not. I've been in the men's locker room. I know what some teenage boys say wen their girlfriends are away. If a guy starts putting on the pressure, the relationship is pretty much over. He has revealed his true intentions. You are about to get used in the most despicable way. Get rid of him before you have a broken heart. You deserve better!

Kevin Sanders is a missionary and campus minister. He is originally from Alabama (USA), but has lived in Manila since 2002. You can read more of his devotional thoughts and articles by visiting KUYAKEVIN.COM.

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